Summing Up 2012

Well folks, 2012 was always going to be a doozy of a year but it exceeded expectations in all sorts of highly unexpected ways.  Obviously this post is going to include a fair bit of repetition of previous blogs but tough shit - what would you expect from a year summary?!
Let's see...

JANUARY
The big deal in January is always my kids' birthdays.  This year was a landmark year as Kathleen finally hit her teens and Erin turned 16.  Naturally having midwinter birthdays it was obvious to have a Hawaiian themed Sweet Sixteen although technically that happened in February.  I did however bust my knee attempting Limbo.

FEBRUARY
After months of anticipation I finally started my first ever university course with The Open University.  Naturally I promptly contracted a chest infection that left me feeling like I was about to die.  Fabulous timing!

MARCH
Turned 34. Least said about that the better.

APRIL
Maybe nothing happened...I can't remember!!!

MAY
Went along to see the Olympic flame on it's way through Taunton and got to see Will.I.Am too!

JUNE
Queen Elizabeth II's Diamond Jubilee in February was marked in June by a long weekend and a number of televised events that we watched...and munched on any number of themed treats!

Erin's prom...didn't she look gorgeous?! Scary how grown up she is...

JULY - AUGUST
Having decided to go the London 2012 Olympics on the day it was announced - in fact, the first my mum heard of it was when I phoned her about 5 minutes later asking if we could come camp on her floor...in seven years time! - it was a long time coming and a tremendous relief to get there.
We saw Water Polo, Dressage and Synchronised Swimming.  It was a pity we never got into the stadium but you can't have everything.

SEPTEMBER
Erin having got her GCSE results in August - 1 x A, 4 x B, 4 x C, 2 x D - Erin started at 6th form college in September eventually settling on A/S levels in Mathematics, Classical Civilisations, Sociology and History.
My 1st OU course came to an end - I would eventually get awarded a distinction - and started my 2nd.
Kathleen had me watch the video for My Chemical Romance's "I'm Not Okay (I Promise)" in late September.  This was not the first time I became aware of the band but for some reason it kicked off an MCR obsession that knocked me for six!  Having been a Blockhead for 22 and a bit years I thought that was the extent of my fan-girl issues...how wrong I was! 

I Cinderella at a castle and I'd love this Knight to come rescue me...

OCTOBER
Working in a castle is pretty cool.  Having a prince visit "your" castle is also pretty cool.  Being invited to the Royal Opening when you're the cleaning lady is surreal beyond words.

October was also about endings.  I finally ended a long standing friendship that had become very negative; which has ended up being a high point of the year.  Taking control of your own happiness and distancing yourself from people who, in whatever way, bring you down is liberating and empowering.  The other end was dropping out of my second OU course.  Despite having always wanted to learn Latin it became abundantly clear that I may be able to scrape through the TMAs but I was never going to pass the end of course exam, so I reluctantly admitted defeat.

NOVEMBER
Started what is now going to be my actual 2nd OU course - Archaeology.  As I was only taking the course to make up the points around the now dropped-out-of Latin it's proving to be a bit of a challenge.  The textbook is dry and I'm not getting into it at all.  Hopefully I can scrape a pass or my entire academic year is kaput and I'd be in danger of not completing my degree on schedule!  It's all a bit worrying.

DECEMBER
The world did not end on December 21st with the end of the Mayan long count calendar so I guess I will have to get my backside in gear to write an essay about them for my Archaeology course. *sigh*

Apocalypse Day

So the world was supposed to end today cos the Mayan Long Count Calendar came to an end.  Just nip down to the shops and buy a new one, guys!  Rather bizarrely I'm doing Mesoamerica on my Archaeology course this week...including the Mayans and their assorted calendars!  Kinda creepy coincidence.

So glad the world didn't end cos I'm not at all sure if they have MCR in the afterlife!  Yup, my obsession is still going strong - three months today.  It's calmed down a little thank goodness; the music in my head is playing at a slightly lower volume and I can (mostly) hear myself think again.
That said, Conventional Weapons Part 3 came out on Tuesday..."The Light Behind Your Eyes" might possibly be the most beautiful thing I have heard in my life.  Right now I can't function if I don't play it at least once every couple of hours!  The other song, "The World Is Ugly," almost didn't get a look in being unfortunately eclipsed by its sister track but it's truly awesome.

In the last couple of weeks I have also stumbled belatedly and zombie-like across the awesomeness of the films "Shaun of the Dead" and "Hot Fuzz"; it seems appropriate to mention this here for two reasons - firstly, thanks to Shaun I now have a zombie apocalypse survival plan.  So if the Mayan doodah turned out to be zombies I was sorted!  Secondly, these two films are part of 'the Cornetto trilogy' - the principal photography of the final instalment wrapped today...it is most appropriately titled "The World's End"!!!  Another good reason for the world not to end cos I really want to see that!  Roll on next August (^_~)

Just a few days to go until Christmas.  Can't say I'm too fussed.  Between a nasty cold, work, study (I keep falling asleep on my textbook) and zombies I can't really be bothered.  Plus there's no ostrich steaks at Lidl for my Xmas Day BBQ.
Mind you, one of my New Year's Resolutions is a long overdue return to vegetarianism.  I like meat but I was deeply disturbed by a recent story that Halal meat is being served 'secretly' to the general public.  I have no objection to Halal meat per se but the exemption is on religious grounds - for it to be served to non-Muslims in this way is flouting laws put in place to prevent animal cruelty.  Highly unethical and really ought to be illegal.
My other New Year's Resolution is "to fuck up my hair, a lot."  I'm currently enjoying a green phase and I have a pot of blue dye.  In 2013 I pretty much plan to work through the entire range, trying out blends and colour combinations along the way.  Should be fun!

The Same But Different

I am very much enjoying my My Chemical Romance obsession and I'm still getting nowhere fast with my Latin so in some respects not a lot has changed in the past four weeks since my last post.
In other respects it feels like an awful lot has changed.  I've had possibly hopefully one of the most bizarre events of my life - in the form of being invited to the opening of the Museum of Somerset by HRH The Earl Of Wessex (Prince Edward) on October 15th...I'd already volunteered to help out with the preparation so they didn't have to invite me!  Have to admit I was a nervous wreck but fortunately I didn't meet him or I'd have managed to embarrass myself somehow.  I'm weird, I know but whilst being a cleaner frequently sucketh verily I really like it at the museum - such nice people, shiny new interiors that are easy (ish) to stay on top of.  Going in as a volunteer is cool too cos the pressure is off: I got to do 2 1/2 hours of stuff that needed doing rather than the usual routine.  Also, being off duty I could blast MCR on my MP3 to my heart's content!

Prince Edward seems like a really nice bloke - very personable, I think the word is, good sense of humour and WAY better looking in person.
The other major event was last week when I embraced my inner uberbitch and ended a long-standing friendship.  Most of the time friends come and go but what do you do when they don't GO?  I probably handled it really badly but I got to the end of my rope.  Naturally I shan't go into details but suffice it to say that I felt I had no choice.  I feel like sometimes you can be a worse person for being nice; I needed to distance myself from someone who made me feel like I was a really bad person - I felt such a fake friend as I secretly seethed about the things she'd say.
Whilst I'm still 'feeling off' from that it's mostly a huge relief.  Strangely it's even helped me feel better about myself.  I have been a single mum for 14 years, working for over 2 1/2 years now, I'm studying...where I'm at kind of sucks but it's not like I'm sitting on my backside, doing nothing for myself and expecting the universe to sort it all out for me!  I feel empowered by freeing myself from someone who made me feel inadequate.

My Acronym Romance

I've been a BH (Blockhead), i.e. a NKOTB (New Kids On The Block) fan, since 1990.  Naturally I've listened to a lot of other music over the years and liked a lot of other bands, NKOTB aren't even representative of what I like.  I have an eclectic a bizarre taste in music...I think nothing of loading up my MP3 with everything from Matt Monro to Metallica, Hula to Classical.

But I have never experienced anything like the last fortnight.

I've liked songs and played them over and over.  I've had songs stuck in my head for days at a time.  But I've never had THIS.  For the last fortnight I've woken up with an MCR (My Chemical Romance) song stuck in my head - a different track every day and sometimes it'll change to another song after a few hours - blasting full volume!

Admittedly I love it but even "Helena" will drive you BSC (Bat-Shit Crazy) when it's on loop in your head for 5+ hours.  This last week I'm supposed to have been studying A297 (Reading Classical Latin) for my OU (Open University) studies.  I tell you, I've spent way more time studying MCR instead...

I bought the 2007 single "Teenagers", I'd seen several other videos but I somehow never got into MCR back then.  My daughters came across them quite recently and, on September 20th my youngest got me to watch the video for "I'm Not Okay (I Promise)" on YouTube...and it was that simple.  Addicted.  My name is Heggie and I have an MCR addiction.

MCR get described as an Emo band a lot, which they dislike cos (a) who wants to be labelled as anything and (b) Emo has some nasty-ass negative connotations but this has been a crazy emotional fortnight for me.  I've been reading up on 11 years of the band's history, their highs and lows and it's been pretty intense.  For example, I found a story from 2008 where a British coroner blamed a 13 year old girl's suicide on her "obsession" with MCR, calling it a suicide cult band.  For a seriously screwy story from four years ago I am flippin' furious!

1. No one commits suicide because of music...unless they're really, really dumb.
2. The CDs all come with parental advisory stickers; it may not be easy to control what your kids listen to but if I were worried I'd confiscate it all!
3. Did the coroner know anything about MCR?  If he only looked at the lyrics he'd get a pretty warped idea of what it was about (e.g. "Dead!" has the lines: Wouldn't it be great to take a pistol by the hand / and wouldn't it be great if we were dead.  The song itself however is IRONIC, it's UPBEAT and it is FUNNY.  I want it played at my funeral!)

I think it's especially nasty as lead singer Gerard Way has had some pretty bad problems with depression and addiction, he credits MCR with saving his life and he wants to help kids...and it would be daft to encourage  your fans to kill themselves - not a good way to sell records or concert tickets!!!

Then there's all the Danger Days crap.  Danger Days: The True Lives of the Fabulous Killjoys (2010) is MCR's 4th studio album and, until Conventional Weapons comes out any day now, their most recent.  Unfortunately a lot of fans have a problem with it for sounding too different and too 'poppy' which I think is just nuts!  I mean NKOTB have been around since 1984* and if you're still making the same songs nearly 30 years later what's the point?  What have you achieved, how have you developed?  People don't (generally) stay the same all their lives; they grow and change and mature.  Three Cheers for Sweet Revenge (2004) is where they were then as twenty-somethings; Danger Days is where they are as thirty-somethings, all married and two have kids.  You'd think the fans would grow up and change too.

* - Final line-up 1985; 1st single and album 1986

But mostly it's a lot of fun.  I am so glad I recently got unlimited Broadband or this would be costing me a fortune...not that it isn't, buying an established band's entire back catalogue takes a while when you're on a tight budget even if HMV (His Master's Voice...but no one's called it that in a gazillion years) had anything in stock (grrrrr!).

Reaching the Age of Responsibility

I have not had a good morning.  I am in a bad mood and have the chocolate bars to prove it.  Maybe this is why I am so annoyed with a certain friend of mine.
Don't get me wrong, I have a great deal of sympathy for her plight - she has serious money worries after the sudden loss of her shiny new job.
Where she really lost me was here: "I'm too young to be worrying about my rent and paying my bills."
Oh.  Em.  Gee.
How old do you need to be to take responsibility for your life?  Legally speaking I guess here in the UK the answer is 18, although plenty of people have to step up and take on responsibilities WAY earlier.  Too young?!  You are 21, dearie - welcome to adulthood already!
At 21 I was a single mum of two.  I was already long-term unemployed and struggling to feed and clothe my kids - quite aside from the day-to-day terror over bills - on the dole.  I had been homeless.  I had known real hardship.  Things were not set to improve for a very long time.
Not a stellar example of taking responsibility you may think, but I disagree.  I may not have done well for myself, I may not have been financially independent (I'm still not) but I took on my responsibilities when others might shirk.    If I'd had family or friends to help ease the burden I dare say I would have done - who doesn't make their life easier any way they can???  I wouldn't have chosen that path, I sure as hell didn't want it.  It made me livid that my ex could walk away and not even have to pay child support whilst I had to bear it all - including the narrow-minded ignorant judgements of others.
Being a teenage mum is NOT an easy option.  Being a single mum is NOT an easy option.  It's physically and emotionally exhausting, the stress levels are unbelievable.  You try feeding a family of 3 on £10 or less per week after bills!!!  Try getting a job with no references and no experience this century!
I'm now 34 and only just getting back on track.  I am finally working.  I am finally in credit with the bank.  I am finally studying for a degree.  The long term effects are horrifying and yet people still add to your stress by labelling you as a lazy scrounger.
My friend has an employment history and references; she is responsible for no one but herself.  She's in a way better position than I am and she thinks she's too YOUNG to face a challenge like this???  Challenges are good; they are character building, they offer new opportunities.  Challenges are a normal, and essential part of life.  Strength is forged in adversity.
It also really makes me think about how I'm raising my kids.  More than once of late I've said to my eldest - now 16 - "when I was your age blah blah blah and you have no idea how easy you've got it!"  Would my kids step up?  Would my kids still expect to be looked after?

Things That Make You Go RRRRARRRRGGGH!!!!

Everyone has things that drive them nuts.  But I do think that TV advertisements have to be one of the most irritating things in the known universe.  Think about it - when was the last time you saw an ad that told you just what you needed to know about the product / service?  When have you actually gone out deliberately to buy something because you saw it on telly?  And yet, in comparison, how many ads have you seen THIS WEEK?

My grandfather was a proof reader with a printing company and raised my mother to be pernickety exacting about spelling, punctuation, grammar etc.  Not a week passed that she won't text or email the latest offence to the English language she's spotted...nine times out of ten it's an advertisement.  Half the time I still don't get it even when it's pointed out to me.

But the one that just got right up my nose today was a Save The Children campaign ad.  "No child born to die"...um, do I need to explain the concept of mortality here?  Everyone is born to die, everyone will die.  Sad but an essential fact of life.  "22,000 children die every day"...again, sad.  But that's all.  Accompanied by images of children living and dying in appalling conditions (apparently in Africa) I have several thoughts on this one...

1) What would happen if they DIDN'T???  Did anyone see Torchwood: Miracle Day?  Sci-fi series exploring the not-so-great concept of immortality.  22,000 children NOT dying each day for one year alone is over 8 million extra people to sustain.  If these dying children's countries / communities cannot sustain them today, how will they sustain them tomorrow, or in a year, or in another decade?

2) Why are they dying?  We're not talking about a famine as such or a natural disaster.  We're talking about an ongoing situation partly due to poverty but partly due to a massive over population of a region that is not overly hospitable to start with.

3) Why is the place so massively over populated if 22,000 children are dying daily?  The birth rate has got to be phenomenal!  Get the birth rate down and what would happen?  The land could sustain the population far better, the water supply would be less stretched and they'd probably be able to afford the basics of health care too!  So is this what Save The Children are trying to do - to educate people, provide birth control, help them to form a sustainable population?  No, of course not.  It's all "let's throw money at the situation cos money fixes everything" - hence the RRRRARRRRGGGH!!!!

Fix the cause, not the symptom.

Mid Term Update

So...I started studying with the Open University earlier this year.  The late start AA100 course (The Arts Past and Present) runs February to September making this pretty much the mid-way point.
It's certainly proving to be a challenge but I think I'm doing pretty well so far.  I've done four out of seven TMAs (Tutor Marked Assignments) with the scores - 67%, 80%, 83% and 82%.  In fact I'm well on my way to passing the course.  I've enrolled to take A297 (Latin) and A251 (Archaeology) in the next academic year.
The friend who got me studying with the OU has sadly dropped out after being diagnosed as severely dyslexic.  It was a blow to her but thanks to the OU she now has a diagnosis.  Although it is perfectly possible for someone with Dyslexia to study at University level, she felt she couldn't continue at this time - who knows, maybe once she's learned to manage the condition she can try again?  Mind you, she wants to be a children's author and six years of study with little opportunity to write wasn't perhaps what she really wanted after all.
For a while there I felt really guilty.  She'd inspired me to study, I'd been a copycat and got my paperwork within 24 hours of her!  And, just for a while, I felt as if I'd stolen her dream.
But I didn't take this on to be a copycat, to try to keep up or go one better.  I'd never really imagined going to Uni, mostly because I never believed it could happen, but I desperately wanted to improve my life.  Don't get me wrong, I'm grateful to have a job and it's not that bad - but I have to get something full time in a couple of years or so...right now my options are really limited.  I really hope studying will help.  If nothing else it's making me feel better about myself and my situation.